The chapter on communication provided some
ideas for improving communication. Are any of these ideas helpful to you? For
the blog this week, make 1 post of 200 words or 2 of 100 words each. You can
also comment or expand on another student's posting.
You can describe how you plan to apply some of
the ideas in this chapter to improving communication with your children, boss,
friends or parents or anyone who is important in your life.
Comment on this video, Lessons from Auschwitz, The Power of Our Words. The central message is that our words are powerful and we never know when our words are the last ones a person will hear from us.
What is your personality type and how does it
affect your personal communication style?
You can also read the scenarios below and
use your knowledge of personality type to suggest ways to improve the
communication. For a quick review of personality type, click on Do What You Are
on the front page of your portfolio on College and Career Success Online. You can comment on
one or more of the scenarios. Remember
to think about personality type and how it influences communication as you
write your comments.
Scenario 1 (E and I):
Mary and Carol are roommates and are
discussing paying bills for the apartment that they share. Mary is upset
because Carol paid the phone bill late. The more that Mary talks, the quieter
Carol becomes. This causes Mary to become even more upset. Mary starts talking
in a loud voice and Carol leaves the room. How can they improve communication?
Scenario 2 (S and N):
A sensing type and an intuitive type are on a
first date. What is each likely to talk about?
Scenario 3 (T and F):
Rachel and Jim have been married about a year. Rachel complains to Jim that he never says, "I love you" anymore. Jim replies that he would not have married Rachel if he didn't love her. How can they improve communication?
Scenario 3 (T and F):
Rachel and Jim have been married about a year. Rachel complains to Jim that he never says, "I love you" anymore. Jim replies that he would not have married Rachel if he didn't love her. How can they improve communication?
Scenario 4 (J and P):
Students in a business class are assigned as a
group project to design a business plan. This is an evening class and has
mostly adults who have busy schedules with work, family and school. Mike is a
highly motivated student who wants to get the group organized and complete the
project quickly. Mike is getting irritated at John because he cannot decide on
a topic and get going. John keeps coming up with different creative ideas for
the business plan. John is getting irritated at Mike because he thinks that
Mike is trying to control the group. How can this group work together to
complete a successful project?
There are a few ways in which communication can be improved. First Carlos could begin the conversation by apologizing for being late on the payment and saying that he would make sure to cover the extra money that will be tacked on to the bill as a late fee. The way that Mary should begin the conversation should begin calmly and with an “I” statement and avoid all “you” statements because this can definitely start hostilities. The next step the two room mates should take would be to talk over any problems that the two people have with each other, in a calm civilized manner. During the conversation Mary should make sure to take deep breaths and try to avoid getting loud or start speaking faster which is a trait that she exhibits due to the fact that she is an extravert, she also need to allow Carlos time for assembling his thoughts and responding. When Carlos is listening to Mary talk he needs to avoid being completely silent which introverts tend to do, he needs to be vocal and express himself so that she does not think he is ignoring her. When Carlos is speaking he needs to confront the situation and realize that it is his fault that this problem is occurring due to his lack of planning. Once these two people can learn to communicate in a way in which the other person can understand not only will this problem be resolved but many other problems will be avoided.
ReplyDeleteThis is a great answer and shows understanding of personality types. Good job!
DeleteIt is important to have a good comunication skills now and for the future in order to communicate better with children, people at work, classmates, and more! When I have children in the future, I will be many and many years older than my children, which means we will have different points of views, and different thoughts, different ideas as well, and different experiences. I try to keep my thoughts open to others and maintain good communication skills with them and understand their age and they way they think. Even though our interests and thoughts would be different, but at the same time, it will be interesting. As we learned in this chapter, two people of the same interests and habits who get married, usually end up having a boring life, unlike those who are different. Also, in order to have better communication skills with the people i work with, I must learn to listen carefully when others talk to me so I can get my job 100% right and accurate. I also need to get rid of as much distractions as possible to be able to focus very well. I also must learn to do one thing at once, either listen or talk, chose just one.
ReplyDeleteThese are effective ideas for improving communication. It is a great idea to listen first and then talk. I often listen to my grandchildren and learn a lot about their point of view. It makes our relationship a good one. Good job!
DeleteI would have to speak on how i can improve my communication skills after reading this chapter. one thing that really stuck out me were the "I" and "you" statements. i have a bad time saying you and shifting the blame. reading this chapter really brought to light the way i communicate and why it is so hard for me to communicate and why it always ends not so great with my loves one. when i always "you you you" they feel attacked and that cause them to lash out. rather than say I. ans expressing how i feel rather than telling them how they feel. I also need to do a better job of gathering my thoughts and Listening to what they are really and not just jump to conclusion of what i think they are going to say. this chapter has helped to understand who i am and how i communicate and has showed me that i need a lot of practice n this area.
ReplyDeleteI like the way how wrote about the ways you can improve in communication skills at least you were mature enough to admit to your flaws. I also share that view with you, time again I have communication flaws and being an immigrant as I am proud to be the language barrier can be a communication problem also. I observed at work that people often go on the defensive when the word "you" is use which comes which is attributed to blame or the person feel attack. I must admit that in the United States you have to be politically correct when speaking because the American society is so sensitive and using the wrong words can use to communication breakdown. I have learn over a period of time to improve my communication skills and the chapter have also increase my level of knowledge.
DeleteGreat insights on ways to improve communication, Ashley. Keep practicing.
DeleteLessons from Auschwitz, The Power of Our Words.
ReplyDeleteThis video was powerful in that short mount of time. if we are mindful of what we say and speak life rather then death because we never know when it will be the last time you ever talk to that person. We need to speak words that grow people and uplift, not words that kill.....we have life and death between our teeth! that is the truth and we need to focus on speaking life into others.
Great comments about the video. I like your comment about using words to grow people and uplift them.
DeleteMy personality type is INTJ. I find that often, I talk to people in a way where I might not hear my tone or even realize that I'm talking to them in a way that might be construed as disrespectful. Many times I find that I am very straight and to the point, I say what I have to say but I try to stay out of conflict with people so I may say nothing at all. I enjoy talking with my friends and my significant other about what I envision my life being like and they very much encourage for me to keep thinking like that. At the same time, I find that I may tend to look at the entire situation and come from a logical standpoint which is when people consider me to be very cold and unfeeling. In my relationships, I am not one for displays of affection and often times it is seen as I'm being coldhearted or I'm being traditional in that not everyone has to see us kiss or hold hands. I'm usually fine talking to people as long as it doesn't turn into a debate or a screaming match.
ReplyDeleteYour comments are insightful. Thinking types (myself included) need to make the effort to understand the feelings of others.
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ReplyDeleteMary has a personal extrovert, she likes to speak and debate loudly, but Carol has a personal introverts, she loves calm and focused, so these two personalities very different in everything. Since there is a problem in the payment of telephone bills between Mary and Carol, so it has to be better communication between them and that by understanding each other and respect their differences, for Mary it must be put problem with Carol quietly, and give them the opportunity and adequate time to express her opinion and her problem, as it should Mary to make a conscious effort to avoid monopoly talk. As for Carol's work to improve communication by making contact effort so that behave sometimes like Mary in social situations, and listen to the problem posed by Mary and lack of room to leave and leave, and trading talk with Mary every detail and quietly, and Carol have to give the subject of interest because it can not to postpone the paying of the bill to another time. In general, each and every one of us faces problems in his life that it was my best friend or one of his family members, in this case has to be to try to calm the situation and then solve the problem quietly, as is the case between Mary and Carol to be that each other are discussed in the solution their problem in paying bills among themselves, after giving themselves up to the time to ease the tension between them, relax and resolve the problem quietly.
Great analysis of the communication styles of introverts and extroverts. These ideas will help people to resolve their problems and get along better.
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ReplyDeleteIn this chapter I learned on how improving communication would be helpful to me. Some ideas that I plan to apply from this chapter are being a good listener. I plan to be a good listener when communicating so that I don’t get in a situation where it becomes a message overload. I plan to also take control of a crisis situation and work on worries and anxiety. When my self or someone else is preoccupied it is crucial that we listen to what has to be said. Therefore if not heard the language could potentially affect behavior. When language is affected by behavior it could lead to rapid thinking and many times is probably not the best solution. I plan to also develop a technique on defusing engagement techniques. It’s a bad habit to talk over someone and not consider the other persons opinion. It could be that maybe we made faulty assumptions of information from that particular person. Talking too much is not always the key to obtain attention. Its important to be an active listener and consider the other speaker. This chapter will also help me improve my communication at work and with my family. It will help me to give time to hear and be listened to have a healthy conversation.
Great comments on improving communication, especially the importance of listening first.
DeleteIt is important to practice good communicational skills with your children, boss, friends or parents. Having good communication with others can prevent you from altercations and also help understand one another better. To help better my communicational skills, I plan on being an active listener. Being an active listener can help me understand others needs in order to meet them efficiently. Also, I plan to make sure I understand the other person's point of view instead of just looking at my own view. I think that considering what others have to say is an important key to communication. When I am present in a disagreement, I often times fail to see the viewpoint of the other person. This is important to improve because it will help better my communicational skills and keep me open-minded. It is also important to have good communicational skills when dealing with children. In order to have good communication skills with children, it is important to have a lot of patience. I plan on making sure I have patience when speaking with younger kids because that will help with understanding one another. Good communicational skills is very important whether you are in the workplace, with your family or friends.
ReplyDeleteThese are great ideas for improving communication, especially being a good listener. It is especially helpful with children.
DeleteIn this chapter, I learned many things about communication and how I can use this information in my life or by dealing with people. I learned in this chapter that I am an extrovert person which makes me a sociable person and likes always to contact with people and help them in their problems. Also, I learned a lot of things about how I can solve the problems and give my friends an advice in any situation and try to pick up my words carefully and don't make them feel uncomfortable by saying it's their fault or putting the mistakes of the other people because that will make the situation worst than before. In addition to that, I have to let people understand my message and make it easy for them, even though they will not accept it and they will feel bored and that will make me a bad sender because the communication is depended on the both sides the one who say it and the other who receive it, that will help them to feel comfortable and have a nice conversation. In short, if you know how to communicate with people, everything will be easy and the people will be able to contact with each other.
ReplyDeleteGood ideas on communication. It is especially important to listen first so you understand and then state your point of view.
DeleteCommunication is most important skills we can have that could help us in the future in order to communicate better with people, children, friends, or the boss. From reading this chapter I learned on how improving a communication would help me in my life. Communication helps me learn how to share ideas, thought and feelings among people. I realized that to communicate with a child I need to make myself available. By communicating with children, I show that I’m interested in their lives and that they are important to me. Also, Communication is essential so that family members respect each other’s needs and wants. Without it, they will not know what each other think or feels which can make family life more difficult. Good communicational skills are very important whether you are in the workplace, with your family or friends. Many people feel odd about looking intensely into others' eyes. I personally find myself naturally focusing on lips in conversations, which can help in a noisy environment. But I have worked hard the last few months to consciously make eye contact. I learned to Offer words and actions of encouragement, as well as praise, to others. I should make other people feel welcome, wanted, valued and appreciated in my communications. If I let others know that they are valued, they are much more likely to give me their best.
ReplyDeleteI like your statement about making other people feel welcome, wanted, valued and appreciated. You can do this by being a good listener first. Good job!
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ReplyDeleteEvery morning you open eyes you have give God thanks and praise for the breath of life and think about how you can change someone life just by communicating with them in a respectful way. The video "The Power Of Our Words" is an eye opener to listeners and viewers it clearly shows how your last words can impact a situation or leaving you with a lifetime of self inflicting pain only because of how you communicate with someone not knowing that was the last time you would see that person. I life you never know what a person is going through until you are able to feel the same pain as that individual. Communication and how you go about doing it is very important the Power Of Words can be detrimental if you use the wrong choices and figure of speech. A living example is the actor Isiah Washington on Greys Anatomy who was off the show for about ten years for making in appropriate or offensive comments against Same sex couples .The list can go on but the main focus is the Power of words and communication. Finally Auschwitz was a concentration camp that was established by the Nazi regime for Polish and Soviet prisoners in Poland. In the later between the years 1942- 1944 it was used for the mass extermination of Jews. In my opinion looking at the video you can tell that the boy's sister regret using these words to him and you can see that it had a lasting effect emotionally and psychologically.
Your words are a powerful reminder about the power of words and the importance of good communication. Great summary of the video.
Delete"The Power Of Our Words" is a powerful video about how words have an impact whether if you were the one saying the words or you were the one being told words. What I took from the video was to be mindful of what you say, because it can be the last thing you can say to a person. Words are so powerful and we sometimes do not realize it. Additionally the way we say things can also be powerful. When using our words we need to speak in a positive manner even when we are feeling negatively.
ReplyDeleteGood summary of the video. It helps us to understand the power of our words.
DeleteAvoiding conflicts is a huge importance with communication, you don't want to be picking fights with friends and family. The best way to avoid a conflict is to handle it delicately when it begins to form. It is easy to let our emotions get out of hand and to start defending ourselves when we feel like we are being verbally attacked. One way to avoid a misunderstanding is to clearly show your point of view and to not use bias language. When you get frustrate about someone doing something you feel is wrong, it's best to not attack them with insults, but to approach them with sincerity and understanding. The best way to understand them is to listen to them, if you don't listen to them then they won't truly feel like you completely understanding the situation and you are just attacking out of frustration. Also, when you want to have no problems at all, sometimes it wouldn't hurt if you did something for them so they won't get mad and you won't feel bad for causing a conflict. By doing this, you would be using a win-lose strategy. If you want to have it your way too, then you could use a win-win strategy, which will satisfy your needs and theirs.
ReplyDeleteGreat comments about the importance of listening and working toward a win-win solution.
DeleteThe communication is very important thing to live and this is the key to success. When I read this chapter,I learned some ideas to improve my communication with my parents or my friends. In general, I'm almost introvert person, but sometimes extrovert. It depends on the person that I communicate with. If I feel comfortable with him or her , I will keep this communication and If I don't feel comfortable with, I will cancel this communication and don't try to keep it. Also, I always try to improve my relationship with my parents because live with them and I love them a lot. I learned from this chapter, how to give more advice to people or my friends even if they like my advice or not, the important thing that I do whatever I can and do all my best. I always try to keep my communication with people who are they close to me by thinking positively, help them always, be honest with them, and don't lie . Also, I learned to trust with a few people who are they deserve this trust forever. Also, I learned that keeping my friends secrets and don't give it to another people, this way make my communication with my friends good and stay forever. Also, trying to solve my friends problems and help them with everything. Also, I learned that to try to understand my friends thoughts however if it's wrong or right and discuss it together until we reach to the same thought. The important communication skills are to be honest all the time, help each other most of the time, don't be angry , don't hurt any person's feeling, try to listen to the person's problem and solve it, give a good advice, so these ways are the keys to success and get a good communication with the others.
ReplyDeleteGood comments on being sincere and honest and being a good listener. Be careful about giving advice because what works for you may not work for another person. Just be a good listener and help others figure out the solutions that work best for them.
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ReplyDeleteScenario 4 (J and P):
Students in a business class are assigned as a group project to design a business plan. This is an evening class and has mostly adults who have busy schedules with work, family and school. Mike is a highly motivated student who wants to get the group organized and complete the project quickly. Mike is getting irritated at John because he cannot decide on a topic and get going. John keeps coming up with different creative ideas for the business plan. John is getting irritated at Mike because he thinks that Mike is trying to control the group. How can this group work together to complete a successful project?
This group might work together to complete this group project if Mike can listen to what is John saying because John might have great ideas that the group could use to finish the group project. Mike is a judging type and he wants everything to be ready before the due date, but John does not care about the date he wants to wait until the last minute to finish the project. I think the way they should fix this problem is by working together on the project and taking both sides's ideas so they will be equal.
I am a sensing type and this personality type affects my communication by being shy. I do not speak back to anyone, even if I was getting affected. I always get in trouble even if I did not due anything. This is my only problem.
You are on the right track by finding ways to work together to get the project done. Good listening is the first step. Be sure to participate yourself so that you can provide your good ideas too.
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ReplyDeleteDon't make faulty assumptions about the person or subject you're discussing about. Avoid distraction while listening for better focus for a better understanding of the debate. While listening, try to be patient and look for the main points. Ask questions if necessary, because the point of vie of something is different between a person and another.Talking slowly and with less words but with a clearer idea (quality before quantity) is an easier way to get your message known. Trying to use facts to convince without taking feelings into account is not a good way to understand the position of the other person. Making negative evaluations of others by saying, “It's your fault” or “I told you so” wont solve the problem in discussion. When you are feeling angry is usually not a good time to discuss issues , because the anger can affect your judgment, and in a bad way. Admitting there's a problem is the first step to solve the problem. Use “I” messages instead of "you" to blame the other person.Resist the temptation to label and call names. Goodwill and responsibility is important. Look at the other point of view. Understand the other person's needs, and make sure the other person understands your needs.
This is a great summary of the important points about improving communication. Good job!
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ReplyDeleteComment on this video, Lessons from Auschwitz, The Power of Our Words. The central message is that our words are powerful and we never know when our words are the last ones a person will hear from us.
Very powerful lesson, i still regret not telling my grandmother i loved her the last time i saw her before cancer stole her from us, i was young and naive and though "ill see her tomorrow, why tell her today?" tomorrow never came and im stuck wishing i could just go back and say 2 measly words that she wanted to hear
.A much bigger moral here is that words have more power than any of us could imagine, say if a boy grew up thinking "one day, I'll rule the world" This boy usually grows up and sees this as a fantasy never to come true. If the boy never grew out of it, and made it his life goal, worked with all effort to establish his life goal, this boy goes on to.
at the end I found this video is very important and helpful, and I recommend it to the students to watch it out and learn how to use the correct words when we speak.
Good summary of the video and the importance of the words we use. Many of us have examples of relatives who have died and we wish we could have said we loved them while they were alive. Good job!
DeleteI learned a lot about communication in this chapter. Im an introvert person, which means i'm a pretty quiet person and I like to think about things before I say them. i would say it really depends on the person, sometimes i'm more extrovert and talkative. Sitting back and listening to a conversation and chiming in when I feel the need is my kind of style. I plan to use the techniques learned in this chapter in scenarios such as arguments. Problem solving and tone is a very important factor when it comes to any conversation. This chapter was similar to an earlier chapter, and it was a nice refresher.
ReplyDeleteLessons from auschwitz shows that you never know when the last thing you say to someone, is going to be the last. I’ve always thought really strongly about this, especially lately, but i agree 100% about never saying anything that couldn’t stand as your last words. You really will never know when the last time you see someone is going to be, unless otherwise for obvious reasons. I think the video shows the girl intending to be a better person overall in the future by never saying any hurtful statements. This video relates to the statement, “ If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all.”
ReplyDeleteGreat comments about the video and the importance of the words we use. I like your reminder that if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all.
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ReplyDeleteWhat is your personality type and how does it affect your personal communication style?
Good communication skills require a high level of self-awareness. Understanding your personal style of communicating will go a long way toward helping you to create good and lasting impressions on others. By becoming more aware of how others perceive you, you can adapt more readily to their styles of communicating. This does not mean you have to be a chameleon, changing with every personality you meet. Instead, you can make another person more comfortable with you by selecting and emphasizing certain behaviors that fit within your personality and resonate with another. There are four basic personality types which is dominant, influential, steady and conscientious. it effects on human taking the wrong action. it is easy to communicate with people, but it is not easy to keep communication with the people because what I think is once you get no respond, you won't communicate no more. To improve this thing you need to be positive and patient. so you can't be affect by these things. This is what i think and this is my opinion about this subject
Be careful about finding material on the Internet to write your answers. Some of these words appear to be copied. Just read the text, think about it, and use your own good words.
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ReplyDeleteI chose “what is your personality type and how does it affect your personal communication style?”
You communicate with others every day. You may not always take the time, though, to think about how your natural communication style affects others. Communication depends on how good you listen to the person you’re communicating with and you listen to them before anything you say because they’re going to get bored and they’re not going to like to communicate with you. If you prefer to talk through a problem in order to arrive at a solution, this probably means that you lean towards extraversion. If you prefer to have time to think and consider information before giving your opinion, you are likely to lean towards introversion. These two ideas describe a spectrum of interaction styles that people adopt when they try to make sense of their inner selves and the outside world. Communication style is characterized by the way people appear in communication, the way they tend to relate to the ones they communicate with and how their messages are typically interpreted. Different personality types process and communicate information differently.
Be careful about copying words from the Internet. Just read the text, think about it, and use your own good words.
DeleteThere are many useful tips in this chapter that can help my communication. First of all I will try to ask more question when I don't understand. Clarity in the other persons message will be very useful. When I am in a important discussion with someone, I will reduce the number of distractions. One example, if me and my brother are talking. I will turn of the TV or music. Most conversation problems happen between me and my brother. After reading about the "you" statements ad the "I" statements, It makes me think of how many times my brother must have thought I was blaming him. I will try to use more "I" statements when we are having conversations (arguments). I never thought of how I use statements that start with "I should". Now that I think of it, I must sound very unmotivated sometimes. Although I don't use it that often, I will make sure I avoid "I should" more often, especially around my family. I never thought of advice being a potentially bad thing. Some of my friends tell me about their troubles, and they do ask for advice. But I never thought giving advice could cause resentment toward me. One thing I will definitely avoid is giving advice when its not asked for.
ReplyDeleteGood summary of some of the important points in improving communication. It is best to be a good listener and help people figure out their own solutions since your ideas may work for you, but not others. Good job!
DeleteAfter reading about how different personality types and how it affects communication and relationships, I feel comfortable with the description I was given. According to the personality test I am an ISFJ personality type and as an introvert I tend to take my time when speaking since I like to plan out what I will say to avoid saying something wrong or concentrating on what is being said. I also don’t like starting conversations and withdraw when in a conflict since I need time to think about what I want to say. As a sensor I like communication to be exact and sequential. In terms of dating and communication I will focus on facts as to what we were wearing, saying and the duration of the even. As a judger I prefer to speak in a structured and planned out environment and often when I make up my mind I find it difficult to change or compromise. With that being said I can be very stubborn and difficult to negotiate with, this could make conversing with me a bit of a drag. Lastly as a feeler I can speak based off of my current mood and take others feelings into consideration, with that being said I will shape the conversation to meet the mood of the person I am speaking with. For instance if a person is sad I will say things to bring their spirit up and comfort them.
ReplyDeleteThis is a good analysis of your personality type and how it affects communication. Good job!
DeleteUsing the ideas from this chapter I plan to apply them in my everyday life. First off when it comes to communication it is often hard at times for two people to completely understand each other and be on the same page. I plan on focusing more on becoming a good listener instead of being focused on talking instead of focusing on the individual talking to me. I also will listen carefully to what the sender has to say so that I do not hear the wrong message and show that I actually care what the sender is telling me. Another thing I learned from this chapter that I will be contributing to my life is how to fix and how to avoid negative self talk. We all do it at some point in our lives but sometimes when it comes to school and work we may get caught up in negative self talk and a very simple way we can fix it is by not allowing our selves to say those things because in a perfectly normal situation it might make it worse because of that. For example if you have a speech to do and tell yourself you are going to do horrible then you might do horrible because that is where most of your focus is on.
ReplyDeleteGlad you found some of the ideas from this chapter useful. Listening is one of the most important ideas as you mention in your post. Good job!
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ReplyDeleteIt is so necessary to be able to communicate with others with good skills. We need good communication skills to be able to be connected with our kids, workmates and classmates and even teammates. We do communicate with all kind of age groups throughout the day. If we do communicate with a child we will have two different point of views of the same subject and this way we have to be open minded and also use good communication skills to be able to get our ideas to them. This chapter has taught us a lot about communication and it types. We must learn to listen to people when they talk to us. This will give us better communication skills. Also, We have to talk or listen, we can’t do both at the same time. If we talk while others are talking to us it is rude and it won't let us understand the idea the other person is trying to give us. We also have to understand the other side and accept their ideas and thoughts even if it is against our ideas and thoughts. This way we show good communication skills just like we have leanred in this chapter.
Good ideas on improving communication.
DeleteThere are lots of ways improve the communication between carol and Mary, First of all, Carol should apologize for his mistake on being late for paying the bill because being late for something important will cause more problems which will lead to more arguments between them, the second way is carol has to listen to what Mary says because when he becomes quite whenever Mary talks to him will lead him to do more mistakes or maybe Mary will think that he doesn't even care if he pays the bill late or early. The third way is they Carol and Mary has to understand each other more and trying to know what is the best for them so they don't argue. Finally, the most important thing is Mary and Carol have to respect each other, whatever happens, they should have respect in solving it because loud voices will not solve any problems and if it does, everyone will use it and leave the room like what Carol did is not a good way to show while someone is talking to him because this will make the problem even worse. Communication skill depends on who the people, and how they show respect to each other and how the understand each other.
ReplyDeleteCarol and Mary can also realize that they are introverts and extroverts and have different styles of communication based on their personalities. Extroverts need to be more quiet and listen more while introverts have to make a greater effort to communicate.
DeleteWhat is your personality type and how does it affect your personal communication style?
ReplyDeleteI am an ENFP so basically I love talking and meeting new people. I am really good at communicating with anyone who wants to communicate, but I don't do well communicating with a person I think or know doesn't like me. I'm very easy-going and laid back and I love hearing other people' ideas, beliefs, and values. However, I personally like to keep my emotions and feelings to myself. I always avoid confrontation and arguments. I'm the type of person who ignores problems so they don't feel real. Even though I love talking to people I tend to get easily distracted so I’ll unintentionally ignore someone while they’re talking to me or I take forever to respond to texts. I know not responding to texts because I’m so focused on something else or distracted has caused some miscommunication problems with some of my friends and family. However, since I am a feeler I do very well when people come to me with their problems. I always try to be empathetic and listen to the person as best as I can. Overall I think my communication strength is my ability to listen to other people when their upset and I think my biggest weakness is being easily distracted when people try to talk to me.
Ignoring confrontation and arguments can sometimes make them bigger. It is best to talk about them in a way that shows respect for the other person. Listening is key.
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ReplyDeleteEven though Mary has a right to be angry, she needs to talk to Carol in a better tone. Mary needs to talk quieter so Carol feels better about the conversation. Mary also needs to give Carol time to talk and explain her point of view. Carol needs to admit that she messed up and she will learn from this experience and tell Mary that this situation will never happen again. Mary also needs to accept Carol's apology so they can be friendly again. This was not a big deal so Mary does not need to yell at Carol. Mary also should admit that she has an anger problem and gets mad all the time for little things. Carol would understand this and they will forgive each other sooner.
Good insights on communicating with introverts and extroverts.
DeleteRachel and Jim can improve their communication in better ways like, Jim should tell Rachel that love does not exist for one day only, it lasts forever and he should have told her that love is not only by saying words like I love you, it expands day after day by showing how much he cares about her and what he will do to make her the happiest woman in the whole world. Secondly, Rachel should understand that she can't tell Jim that he supposes to tell her I love you because it will not be nice when you order someone to say the word that you like. If Jim didn't love her, he wouldn't have married her and have chosen to live the rest of his life with her. The communication will be better each day if they both try to understand each other's thoughts and try to know how each of them thinks about lots of things, for example, if Rachel understood how Jim thinks, she wouldn't even ask him why he is not saying I love you. The best thing to have better communication is to know each other and how each other thinks and since they know that, everything will get better.
ReplyDeleteGood ideas on dealing with thinking and feeling types. The key is understanding the other person and communicating. Good job!
DeleteWhat is your personality type and how does it affect your personal communication style?
ReplyDeleteMy personality type are judgers, that’s help me a lot with my life by being organize and well planned and good listener, for example I learned that when I have to do the speech I should prepare very well and make some research and also practice to get rid off the fear, so that’s help me to be a good communicator. Also to be organize in my life to know what am doing and also know my goal and go to accomplish this goal, for example when I choose my major I went to consoler to discuss the major that I like and what classes should I take every semester that will help me finish the classes faster and know where I am up to. Life is school we have to fall to study and make it good lesson in are life.
Good understanding of your personality type.
DeleteMy personality types are usually creative, inspired, and sensitive. I am a private person, and I take time to get to know people and to let people get to know me that why I have difficulty with taking the first step. I trust a small group of friends, People describe me as thoughtful and empathetic, and I have strong feelings and opinions, especially about the way people should treat one another. I am very committed to my beliefs so I may have trouble backing down or giving up my ideals just to do what others think is best. I learned by the days to change little bit of my character because of my personality I lost a good communication with other. Therefore I try to watch first , analyze the person then I decide how to treat the other especially I know myself I give a lot attention to other and then get easily hurt so to avoid getting hurt I try to treat friends , family and work partner as I got treated to avoid any misunderstanding. Changing with every personality I meet. Instead, I can make another person more comfortable with me by selecting certain behaviors that fit within my personality and resonate with another.
ReplyDeleteGood ideas for communicating with different personality types.
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ReplyDeleteThere are many ways Rachel and Jim can improve their communication. Every woman likes to hear the words "I love you" especially coming from their husband. When Rachel told Jim, "I want you to say I love you more", she was communicating her feelings to him. Jim probably would have never realized he barely says it or that it bothers her that he is not saying it. When he told her that he wouldn't have marred her if he didn't love her, it gave her a piece of mind. It was like a reminder that he really does love her. Communication is important between partners. That should be something that comes naturally and all the time. I think people should talk together more rather than just watching TV. If they tell each other what they want or what is bothering them, their marriage will improve. Communication is key and they should definitely talk as much as possible.
Yes, communication is key to a good relationship. It is helpful to understand personality differences.
DeleteYou can describe how you plan to apply some of the ideas in this chapter to improving communication with your children, boss, friends or parents or anyone who is important in your life.
ReplyDeleteIt is important in life to improve our communication skills as we grow older we start learning better communication skills, for me school definitely has a huge impact on my communication skills, I learn a lot from school and classes I take. I'm a business major so I get to learn a lot about communication and how were supposed to communicate with each other, we always work in groups, sometimes teachers assign us in different groups so we get to know each other and learn how to communicate with different types of people. We learn these skill so that we use these in the future. As a business major in accounting I know that I will be dealing with different types of people and mostly every day, so knowing how to communicate is a must. This chapter was really good and I learned a lot of new skills and how to communicate with other people, and I can apply these communication skills in my everyday life at school, at home with my family and friends also in the future these will help me a lot. When someone has a good communication skill their life will easier, can form good relationships with their partner or people in general.
Yes, good communication is necessary on the job as well as in your personal life.
DeleteWhat is your personality type and how does it affect your personal communication style?
ReplyDeleteMy personality type is ISTJ (Introvert, Sensor, Thinker, Judger). Being an introvert affects my personal communication style because I am often quiet and like to take my time when faced with conflict. Meanwhile extroverts are very talkative and outgoing as an introvert I like to think about what I am going to say first. Sensor, this trait makes me want to know the facts and details of whatever I am discussing, this can often be interpreted as “nitpicking”. I am very much so a thinker, this means I an logical, detached, analytical, and objective this affects my communication when I am listening to someone speak I always want to give my advice in a logical way. After reading this chapter I learned that giving my advice could be a defective communication skill and actually offend the person you are talking to. Lastly, I am a judger. I have always lived a live of structure, organization, orderly, controlled, and somewhat OCD. This can be detrimental to communicating with others if I am so up tight about having things done a specific way. I am the kind of person who likes to have control over situations, and hard to negotiate with because once I’ve made up my mind it is not easily changed. This chapter has opened my eyes to how my personality traits have affected my communication with others. Now that I am more aware of my traits and communication characteristics I will be more in tune to improve the negative factors.
Good analysis of your personality type and how it affects communication. We all have strengths and weaknesses and it is helpful to be aware of them.
DeleteI am a sensor type. When communicating I like things to be in order such as discussing an event in the order it happened in. I rather have facts instead of opinions. Everyone has an opinion thatI might not agree on and might argue but the same cannot be done with facts in my opinion. I like to ask specific questions that will get straight to the point. I am also a perceiver. I often find myself being very indecisive and will usually let others decide on things like where to eat and what to do. I like to live in the moment and keep my options open. I rather communicate face to face instead of electronically. I often times do not respond to text messages or emails. I think communicating electronically opens up to the door for misunderstandings and the message you are trying to convey gets misconstrude. I am also a introvert. I would rather have little to no conflict and I will usually shut down or shut that person out. I do not like long drawn out conflicts, if there is an issue, I feel the need to squash it as soon as possible and move on with life. I think my strength is my ability to listen and comprehend what someone is saying. Also, my friends think I am a great listener not only because I comprehend but most importanly for them is my ability to show understanding and not to cast judgement.
ReplyDeleteYou describe some great communication skills here.
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ReplyDeleteA sensing type and an intuitive type are on a first date. What is each likely to talk about?
A sensing type is a practical and realistic person. The conversation of a sensing person would describe the setting of the restaurant, what the food tasted like, and what the person dressed or looked like. Sensors would also talk about the places they have visited, the people they know and what experiences they have gone through in life. Sensing types are about concrete events. Sensors also like to be on time, so if you are late they will most likely bring that to your attention. Now an intuitive person is more relax like "having their head in the clouds". Intuitive types visualize the date before it even starts, they like to day dream. When intuitive start to have a conversation they express their train of thought. Their conversations will talk about their beliefs, the dreams or visions they have, and changing from one subject to another. Being a sensing and intuitive type there are many advantages in this relationship. As long as both sensing and intuitive type can understand, support and appreciate each other they will have a successful relationship. They also balance each other, a sensing type needs an intuitive type to comprehend different outlooks and an intuitive type needs a sensing type to be able to deal with the details.
Good description of sensing and intuitive types.
DeleteThis chapter was really informative and useful for everyone in their everyday lives. I feel like it is essential for people to understand themselves better in order to learn how to deal with others more effectively. If we don't know our own likes and dislikes when dealing with communication how can we maintain healthy and fun relationships with those around us. There is someone I work with who is twice my age and I feel like she doesn't respect me because of this even though we are equals. Over the past few weeks I have been struggling working with her because I constantly feel like she is trying to aggravate me through passive aggressive comments or just rudely responding to me. I constantly find myself frustrated and having to remove myself from the situation just to let my emotions settle down. This chapter helped me with some other ideas on how to better deal with this situation at work. In the future I am going to try to follow up with feedback if she says something that I don't completely understand, or reword it in my point of view so that can see her point of view more clearly. I realize that walking away from the situation is only a temporary solution and that things need to be talked out in order to be resolved. I will try to listen to her before listening to myself speak to see where she is coming from and validate her thoughts, not just mine. Hopefully she can see my effort and will reciprocate it.
ReplyDeleteImproving my communication skills is a must. Having good communication skills is important in any relationships you have. Being able to communicate well with people is something you can work on. Sometimes it is hard to communicate and get your feelings across with people may be hard sometimes but making " I " statements can really help. Communication can help relationships become stronger and last longer and that goes for all relationships.
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ReplyDeleteMy personality type is ESTJ. This means I am an extrovert. Most people believe that an extrovert is a person who is friendly and outgoing. While that may be true, that is not the true meaning of extroversion. Basically, an extrovert is a person who is energized by being around other people. This is the opposite of an introvert who is energized by being alone. Extroverts tend to fade when alone and can easily become bored without other people around. When given the chance, an extrovert will talk with someone else rather than sit alone and think. In fact, extroverts tend to think as they speak, unlike introverts who are far more likely to think before they speak. Extroverts often think best when they are talking. Concepts just don't seem real to them unless they can talk about them; reflecting on them isn't enough. Extroverts enjoy social situations and even seek them out since they enjoy being around people. Their ability to make small talk makes them appear to be more socially adept than introverts. Sensor is also another part of the personality. A sensor is paying attention to physical reality, what I see, hear, touch, taste, and smell. I'm concerned with what is actual, present, current, and real. I notice facts and I remember details that are important to me. I like to see the practical use of things and learn best when I see how to use what I'm learning. I am also a Thinker rather than a feeler. People of this personality type are often very successful in their career as they have both competence and purposefulness. Independent Thinkers are excellent strategists; logic, systematics and theoretical considerations are their world. They are eager for knowledge and always endeavor to expand and perfect their knowledge in any area which is interesting for them. Abstract thinking comes naturally to them; scientists and computer specialists are often of this type. Lastly I am a judger. When Judgers think, they like to wander the garden of their minds for them to speak. Ideas and thoughts come to them the same way fish swim around in a koi pond and it requires calm and peace to really focus or even see them clearly. If Judgers are deep in thought and are disrupted, it’s like the disturbing the waters of that pond. The little idea swims away and they may or may not ever be able to get it back.
Good job, students!
ReplyDeleteI am choosing to do What is your personality type and how does it affect your personal communication style?
ReplyDeleteIn this chapter its talked about how good communication skills require a high level of self-awareness. When you are in a conversation with someone making sure they feel good talking to you is important by the way you speak with them or listen. Being a good listener can really help the sender when speaking to you to feel more comfortable. To improve on being a good listener just give the sender your outmost individual attention and make sure to understand the full meaning of what they are saying so that the message does not get taken the wrong way because that could become a big problem if something is said and taken the wrong way when it was not the meaning in the first place. By becoming a better listener people will look at you as someone to really be able to talk to and communicate with without being nervous or afraid.
ReplyDeleteMary and Carol should make a clear schedule of who is paying what and when, that way there are no mix ups or late payments. During their discussion Mary should explain to Carol the consequences of her late payment and use “I feel” instead of blame words like “you”. Mary should also let Carol explain why she paid the bills late, maybe she had an event occur that was out of her control and Mary should understand that. Instead of yelling or being angry with Carol she should just understand that people are human and forget to do things, and ask Carol to promise not to forget to do it again
I think that this video teaches a great lesson that you should always say positive things to people because those may be the last words they could hear. I think this is important because sometimes people are just speaking without thinking about how their words affect others. I think it is better to be nice to people from the start than be rude and then have to apologize later. To think that sometimes there couldn’t be a “later” like the woman and her little brother is a reality check and helps give a perspective on how people should act and realize how fortunate we are.
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